Troubled Love

Our sweet Henny has a favorite spot on the couch in which he likes to grab his blanket and cuddle with his cup in hand. Well, the past couple of days, it seems as if he will not go to sleep unless he’s on the couch with a blanket and his cup. Perhaps it is because when he was sick a few weeks back, we spent a whole week cuddling on the couch.

Last night was no different. We gave the boys a bath, did story time, and attempted to put them down around 830pm. Jovi went to sleep easily, but Hendrix wasn’t having it. He wanted to go downstairs and cuddle on the couch. I was so tired, but I knew that shortly after cuddling with him on the couch, he’d fall asleep and I would be able to easily put him back to bed once he was in a deep sleep.

While cuddling on the couch and scrolling through the channels to find something good to watch, I came across a show on Oprah’s OWN network, called “Black Love“. The title seemed appealing so I decided to tune in. Boy am I happy that I did.

This is a show that highlights the love stories of couples like Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin, Tia Mowry and Cory Hardrict, Viola Davis and Julius Tennon, and many more. Its essential purpose is to find out the secret to what makes marriage work. I’ve only been able to watch one episode so far, but it ignited something within me to think about my marriage and how we got to where we are today.

Travis and I have been together for twelve years and married for three. That is a very long time! We actually celebrated our “dating anniversary” this past Friday. Our relationship has not been without a great deal of trials and throughout our 12 years together. Actually, 9 out of those 12 years were terrible. However, from the outside looking in, you’d never be able to tell.

The reason why the show “Black Love” appealed so much to me because it made me realize that Travis and I are not the only ones that had a terrible past but still remained together. You never know what you will and will not tolerate until you find yourself in certain situations. It is easy to look at someone else and wish you had what they have, or even pity them because they don’t have what you have – but everyone’s walk is different as to how they got to where they are today.

Ecclesiastes 7:20 states that “surely there is not a righteous man on earth who does good and never sins”. I am thankful for our terrible past because it helps me to appreciate Travis more and more each day. I have always known the potential that Travis had, even when he was a 16 year old little boy. I remember telling him around the time that we met that we were going to get married and have kids. HA! Only if I knew then what I know now. Travis and I have grown so much not only together, but in Christ. I love my boo, always and forever!


Back to Raising. XOXO.


  1. Jaclyn Bree

    October 14, 2017 at 6:10 pm

    My Doll (2yr4m) likes to sit on the couch with her milk bottle and a blanket. We call it “zoning out” because she just drinks, “plucks” at the blanket fibres, and stares/observes/daydreams. Thankfully she doesn’t need to be on the couch to fall asleep, but she does need her milk and a “plucking blanket.”
    I don’t have TV but it’s always nice to find out you’re not the only one who has been through trials and tribulations. My husband and I have had a pretty rocky relationship but funny enough, having kids actually seems to have fixed that!

  2. Kayla

    October 23, 2017 at 1:42 pm

    Ha…I love the term “zoning out”…perfect! I read your blog and I noticed that you got married 10 days after meeting in person. That is awesome! I wish you the best in your marriage and motherhood! 🙂

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